Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

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How I understood it , was that it’s okay to want and desire a relationship but you cannot let it dictate your life and whilst people can meet your needs we shouldn’t depend on it , we can only depend on ourselves by honouring ourself and asking ‘what do I need ‘. Jessica’s friends offered to take her to Al-Anon – an offshoot of Alcoholics Anonymous that’s geared toward the family members of alcoholics – but this made Jessica angrier.

Both Apple and Google state that they ensure that only users who have actually downloaded the app can submit a review.Maybe, by sharing these thoughts, someone else might be inspired to read this book and better themselves as well. I spent a lot of time pondering the conflict between charity and codependency, and wondering if I could really bring this book in line with my religious views. It's highly addictive to get core insights on personally relevant topics without repetition or triviality. Nor am I discounting the experiences of those who feel they benefit from it - recovery and benefit are valuable however they come to any individual.

As far as I'm concerned, if anyone tries to tell you you need God, 12 Steps and Higher Power to heal, then I suggest running the other way because they are likely attempting some form of evangelical conversion - a form of violence completely antithetical to healing. It is possible to communicate both of these at the same time - many people manage it easily and respectfully.With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency -- charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness. I didn't completely like the religious angles that much, though they will be good for some people, and at times it seemed as though there was an awfully large umbrella for which people could be defined as codependent. I think the baseline message was articulated very well, in terms of what the core dynamics of codependency are - essentially, caring too much about, and being too influenced by, what other people think, want, etc. A great read for anyone who feels like they always put others first but no one does the same for them, or that they have given so much they have lost themselves, or who is trying to be or already on the other side of an abusive relationship and has no idea how to restart. I picked them up at the library after hearing the term codependent used in The Emotionally Abusive Relationship.